Sharing
Teaching sharing is a very difficult proposition. One of David's first words was "mine". How do you teach a child who holds "mine" in such an esteemed position to share?
Merry is much better at it, but she still gets nervous when she sees David coming. If an activity or object is holding Merry's attention and David catches on, he wants it. Merry has been conditioned to respond defensively.
Every day there are battles, and with the third child, Thomas, now able to get into the action there is no end to the war in sight.
The concept of sharing is one of the hardest parts of parenting, it is frustrating mitigating these battles. It happens everyday and often leads to crying, yelling and time outs.
In a twelve hour day there are hundreds of opportunities for sharing and Merry and David do pretty well 90% of the time. They understand the concept, they have a very difficult time implementing it.
To be honest, I still have a hard time sharing. If I am invovled with either an activity or object which is holding my attention and someone out of the blue tries to grab it, I get angry. Maybe if we can get control of David's grabbing, it will help the children's sharing.
I read this post to Heidi and she said" "Duh" it is not about them sharing, it is all about David grabbing. I must remind him fifty times a day not to grab Merry's things".
Merry is much better at it, but she still gets nervous when she sees David coming. If an activity or object is holding Merry's attention and David catches on, he wants it. Merry has been conditioned to respond defensively.
Every day there are battles, and with the third child, Thomas, now able to get into the action there is no end to the war in sight.
The concept of sharing is one of the hardest parts of parenting, it is frustrating mitigating these battles. It happens everyday and often leads to crying, yelling and time outs.
In a twelve hour day there are hundreds of opportunities for sharing and Merry and David do pretty well 90% of the time. They understand the concept, they have a very difficult time implementing it.
To be honest, I still have a hard time sharing. If I am invovled with either an activity or object which is holding my attention and someone out of the blue tries to grab it, I get angry. Maybe if we can get control of David's grabbing, it will help the children's sharing.
I read this post to Heidi and she said" "Duh" it is not about them sharing, it is all about David grabbing. I must remind him fifty times a day not to grab Merry's things".
posted by Peter at
11:17 AM
1 Comments:
Sharing, or grabbing...It's a half full or half empty kind of distiction (no offense), don't you think? Still, we get to give the future its training here. Sometimes, it's a little scarry.
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